Good Grief

 Good Grief


 “People are like stained glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in, their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”  – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross




What constitutes grief?

Love and Loss.

A loss of something we once loved equates to grief.

Though the loss of a loved one is the most common form of grief, there are many other shapes and sizes that mustn’t be overlooked.

Grieving always occurs when we lose something that we once knew and loved: A job, a home, a relationship, a lifestyle, a family member, or a wonderful life we once knew.

When grief hits, it can happen quickly or take its time, shattering us into a million pieces and leaving us wondering if we’ll ever be whole again.

Grieving is an entire rebirth of our former Self. It’s important to recognize this, remain aware of the cycle, and not rush the process.

Grief usually begins with numbness. It’s the point of paralysis and disbelief. Decisions are difficult; we feel stuck and confused. This is a perfectly natural stage — the foundation of our Self has shifted under our feet.

We feel lost, because we experienced loss.

Along with the shift often comes a surge of emotions… Anger, sadness, bitterness, blame and guilt, to name just a few.

Though we’ll want to push past these feelings, we must move ‘through’ each and every emotion as it appears in order to fully heal.

Cry, yell, scream and shout… These are necessary steps to get it all out! It’s essential we allow our Self to feel the emotion, acknowledge it, stay with it, and breathe through it. This way, when depression moves in (and it will), our withdrawal and disconnect from the world will be just a little visit with darkness rather than a long descending fall.

Nurturing of the Self is vitally important. We must use this time to fill our Self with lots of love and light. – Everyone’s needs will be different, so spend some time going deep within.

At some point in the grief cycle, it will be natural to want to seek out purpose and meaning for your loss. This is usually the point when any remaining residues emerge. – It’s okay to restart the cycle: “Wash, Rinse and Repeat.”

Finding meaning behind our suffering is the ultimate path to wholeness and to healing, so journal, meditate, talk honestly with professionals and friends. This is all part of the journey to self-acceptance and spiritual growth.

The goal of grieving is not to become the same person you once were, but to experience a new phase of your spirit and become even more enlightened than you were before!

ETE = Enjoy the ExperienceTM

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  1. stevie ann
    stevie ann02-25-2015

    Thank you for this.My boyfriend of five years just drown this past friday.I feel so much grief. I don’t know what to do. I can’t believe I will never see him again. This article helped me cope. Once again thank you.

    • soulfeltmsb

      Namaste Stevie Ann, Big hugs of condolences to you. I can feel your sadness, shock, and pain. Though it may be too early for you to accept, please know he IS with you. He is simply now in different form. Always remember this. Many blessings. ~ Michelle

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